Wednesday, 30 December 2009

Easy Weaning?

I don’t think so!! I am finding all this information confusing…....what am I supposed to be feeding him and when? Just given him some stage 2 finger food that looks like wotsits. Its everywhere!!

Is your baby ready for weaning? First signs include:
Still seems hungry, even after more milk.
Shows an interest in your food.
Puts toys in mouth.
Is able to sit up without support. (Hipp Organic)
Never introduce solids before their 4th month.

Make all solid foods smooth, mild and runny to start with, gradually increasing the thickness of the puree as your baby gets used to taking solids from a spoon. Don’t worry about giving them too much – they will turn their heads and refuse to open their mouths when they are full. Don’t forget that variety of food is key in order for baby to grow up loving food. (Hipp Organic).

All fruit and vegetables should be washed and peeled. Remove any pips, cores and bruised areas. Cook (or steam) all fruit and veg during the early stage of weaning (to ensure tender), before whizzing in a blender. Banana and avocado can be mashed from the beginning. (Tesco 20 easy steps).

At 6/7 months you should introduce fish, chicken and meat purees. Babies grow extremely fast in their first year and need nutrient-rich, higher calorie foods. In the first year of life a baby’s brain grows rapidly. A large proportion of the brain is composed of fatty acids. It is important to include oily fish such as salmon as it is rich in fatty acids – vital for brain and visual development.

Yesterday Daddy blended what we had for lunch, which was salmon and veg. Jamie seemed to love it, but 5mins later it all came back.....

Iron deficiency is the most common nutritional deficiency in babies and toddlers and the iron a baby inherits from his mother runs out at 6 months. Red meat provides the best source of iron so combine it with root veg to make tasty purees. Chicken is another excellent first meal – it blends well with veg and fruits such as apple and grapes.

Most babies will give foods with lumpier textures a go at 7/8 months. Even without teeth babies can manage lumpy foods. To start, rather than pureeing foods, try mashing or stirring in tiny pasta shapes to make the transition gradual. Encouraging them to chew will help speech development (Tesco) as the muscles used for chewing are also used for speech. Your baby’s coordination may also be improving, so now’s the time to begin introducing finger foods. Small pieces of cooked, mixed vegs and little cubes of fruit are ideal to start with. (Cow & Gate Weaning Guide).

As your baby gradually begins to take less milk and more solid foods, it’s important to make sure they are eating a balanced diet. This means making sure they eat a wide variety of foods from the main 4 groups:
1. Dairy Products like cheese, yogurts, fromage frais and suitable milks.
2. Starch foods like bread, cereals, rice, pasta and potatoes.
3. Fruits and vegetables.
4. Protein foods like meat, fish, chicken, eggs,

Drink
Water is the best alternative to milk. If you give juice, make sure it is diluted one part juice to 10 parts water. Introduce a trainer cup at 6 months and aim to have your baby off the bottle by 1 year. (Tesco 20 easy steps) It’s best to put juice in a cup and put only milk or water in your baby’s bottle. (Boots Weaning Q&A). Full Fat pasteurised cow’s milk can be introduced from 6 months in cereal or cooking. Skimmed or semi skimmed don’t contain enough vitamins for children under the age of two.

Monday, 28 December 2009

How was it for you?

Was that it? All that build up and then it was over so quickly.... What am I talking about? Christmas of course!! Christmas Day we went to Nanna's (my mum) with my brother, his wife and Noah. Daddy stopped en-route at the pub and missed some of the present un-wrapping but made it in time for Christmas Dinner. It was certainly very different from any other Christmas Day I have been involved with previously. Jamie is now pretty proficient with his crawling - still a bit haphazard as to which bits move where, but he can certainly move when he wants to!! Noah has just reached the smiling stage so not too much trouble. Both of them had their 5-10mins of crying during the day and of course there was the constant Nappy changing, but I think they were both very well behaved and had a fabulous first Christmas. We all left about 5pm - Nanna went off to her sisters and my brother was entertaining his wife's family. Daddy went off to see his family but came back within the hour as Nanna Mo was her usual self. I went to bed feeling slightly merry!!

And yes, it was a kinda white Christmas as we had snow last week and there was a lot left on most surfaces. However, a lot of this had turned to ice by Boxing Day which made it difficult for me to collect Nanna from her sisters. For some reason I felt really depressed / 'off it' all day. Was it too much wine, too much turkey or just the sense that it was all over so quickly?

Friday, 25 December 2009

Jamie's First Christmas

MERRY CHRISTMAS EVERYONE!!


Tuesday, 22 December 2009

Me? Babysitting?

God knows how long its been since I last babysat for anyone and, now I think about it, why did anyone in their right mind leave me (no experience whatsoever) alone with their precious children? Now I have Jamie I doubt I will leave him alone with anyone other than fully certified relations, someone who has had a child of their own, or at least someone with a degree in childcare. But then I was in tears last Saturday when Jamie’s auntie and uncle looked after him! I would certainly not leave him with a young teenage (as I was) whose only aim was to eat everything in the cupboard and ring everyone I knew on their phone!! I suppose it’s a bit different now with mobile phones…… Anyway, I do remember babysitting for our next door neighbours at Pendine and after mentioning how I didn’t like the dark (or something) they never asked me again!! But that (and the revelations from the friend who accompanied me on a few occasions) is reserved for my other blog.

Anyway, back to 2009, and my brother asked my mother to babysit for him on Saturday night. She can’t do it (another Christmas party) so she asks me for him as its their anniversary. What she doesn’t tell me is that it is a surprise so when I say; ‘Still looking for a babysitter’ it kinda ruins it! So Saturday night I am driving down the A46 thinking ‘I don’t like the look of this snow’. They still decide to go out, but do return early because Horncastle has over an inch of the said white stuff while they are eating. They didn’t find me panicking about the dark but rather caught up on a lot of paperwork and feeling competent in the old babysitting. Noah; my nephew, only woke up once to be fed – the sucking of my finger told me what he was after. What was bizarre though was their AngelCare monitor. A write up says; Whether your baby is awake or asleep the sensor pad will detect all your baby’s movements - even the slightest breathing movement. The Alarm will sound on both monitors after 20 seconds of no movement. Well, this was like Chinese water torture, as the monitor lets out a beep at various intervals to confirm that they are still breathing. However the beep is not regular – as babies don’t actually breathe regularly – but even a fraction of a second later than before and my heart was in my mouth – madness!! And then when I took him out of the cot to feed him, the bloody alarm went off and I could only stop it by putting him back!! Other than that and the lack of knowledge about my brother's house and all their gadgets i.e. heating, TV, lights, kettle etc. I think I did well and felt a bit better about forgetting my Secret Santa at Noah’s Christmas party on Thursday. My babysitting may have made up for my baby brain – that is as long as they have not noticed I knackered their kettle!!

Friday, 18 December 2009

The Bed(rooms) Too Big Without You

After a rather manic weekend with cousin Lucy's last visit before Christmas and the trips that this entailed, The 'Old Ventures' Christmas Party, the Lincoln Santa Run (2.2miles) and the Baby Signing Christmas Party, Monday night we decided to move Jamie into his own room.

As we left to go to the Christmas Party Saturday night Jamie was in his cot but was crying and I did not want to leave him. After bumping into Auntie Christine's car on the way out (extent of damage still to be reported) I was a nervous wreck by the time I got to the Bentley and I am afraid was a bit of a wet fish all night. When I booked it last year (while pregnant) I thought that it would be a brilliant excuse for a night out - I even booked mum in in December for a babysitter!! But when it came round I didn't want to leave Jamie....

And then on Monday; with the Nursery newly carpeted, we moved the cot and Jamie out of our bedroom and into his own room. To be honest I was more upset about the move than he was, as after only a few minutes of crying he drifted off nicely. Last night (Thursday) he hardly batted an eyelid; Bath, Change, Bed and he was away. The only worry I have now is the cold and so after we turned the heating off as we went to bed, I covered him - and his little hands - with a lovely thick blanket. At 2am this morning I checked on him and (as usual) his hands were showing so I quietly covered them up again.

Forecast is for snow this weekend. Could it be a White Baby's First Christmas?

Friday, 11 December 2009

Commando Baby....

Continuing with the de-clutter prior to Jamie moving into his own room. Due to the rate at which Jamie is leaning to crawl, we are having the Nursery carpeted on Saturday – its not fair for him. Wooden floors are good for wiping up sick (and other fluids) but not so good on little heads!! He is already so quick; you only have to turn around and he has got hold of something….. and its in his mouth!! He seems to love paper at the moment and both of the ‘craft’ activities from the Baby Signing group have ended up crumpled and in his mouth.

His crawling was referred to by Auntie Hannah as ‘Commando Crawling’ as he uses his arms to put himself along, instead of the bum in the air traditional crawling!! Reading up on the Internet it said; ‘There are many benefits to crawling because it helps to improve your baby’s vital motor skills, visual and physical ability and improves the strength in their limbs and upper body.’

All this activity has meant I have been looking at the advice on Baby-Proofing the house:

  • Keep trailing wires out of reach and cover electrical sockets.
  • Cushion any sharp corners on furniture.
  • Make sure free standing furniture and the TV etc. can’t be pulled over (Once he is on the move, he’ll be trying to pull himself up on it).
  • Watch out for tablecloths being pulled on.
  • A Fireguard is essential.
  • In the nursery don’t have the window near the window and fit locks on the windows so they can only be opened a few inches.
  • Secure dangling light or blind cords.
  • Make sure cleaning products and toiletries are stored out of reach.
  • Always keep the loo lid down.

Some of these things I had not even thought about, but I have started to look at the house from Jamies perspective and move / remove items. And although we don’t have stairs I have invested in a couple of stair gates; one for the kitchen and one for the Nursery!!

Friday, 4 December 2009

Jamie is now as old as I was pregnant for……

….I know which felt longer!!

Jamie is still teething – they are nearly here (two on the bottom) - but he has also been suffering with a cough and a runny nose, so we have had a few broken nights; but Calpol seems to help!! Today I swear he was just about crawling…..it won’t be long before he has caught up with cousin Lucy. I can’t believe how much he changes from day to day. I swore he grew while he was at Nanna's yesterday!

This week has been slightly manic as I have started wrapping the Christmas presents and de-cluttering the house at the same time. This means there is stuff everywhere but I keep telling myself it is all part of the plan….. As I said previously the house is not exactly baby proof so I have been trying to ‘get rid’ as Uncle Dean would say. My focus was sharpened by Thomas’ (age 2½) visit on Wednesday when he seemed to touch EVERYTHING!!

On Wednesday night, while Granddad was here, I got a few things out of the loft; including the fibre optic Christmas tree. I decided against the large fake tree for the front room due to it taking up too much space, but also because of Jamie and Lucy. Jamie loves the fibre optic tree (just under 3ft) and I have put all his (and Daddy’s pressies) under it. In the Dining Room there are more presents. This time I have gone a bit DIY and sprayed a trig from the garden with fake snow and put a few ornaments on from the Bauble Barn www.doddingtonhall.com/christmastime which we visited with Cousin Lucy a few weeks back!!

Was hoping to get on top of my jobs yesterday while Jamie was at Nanna's, but Kate came to check out what has been happening on FaceBook (its not allowed at their house) and once she had gone I found it very difficult to get anything started as I knew Nanna would not be long bringing Jamie back. Looking at the calendar I/we are very busy up until Christmas so I doubt I am going to have much time for myself. I have however, booked myself in to get my eyelashes and my hair done next week and have been invited to a Virgin Vie party so shouldn’t grumble. And today Daddy is off work to take us shopping – if he ever gets out of bed!!

Monday, 30 November 2009

The Tooth has Arrived…..

Started giving Jamie 3 meals a day this week. Helped along by the visit to the Health Visitor and then cousin Lucy at the weekend. She is nearly walking!! And into everything.....which shows us how much stuff we need to do before the house is Jamie-proof! Jamie seems to like what I have so far given him for breakfast – especially Creamy Rice Breakfast and he is eating more of the pots for his lunch and tea. However, he still seems to want milk as well, so I am giving him 200ml of follow on (as opposed to 240 of Hungry Baby).

Saturday he was all over the shop and investigation showed that a tooth (possibly two) is/are pushing through at the bottom of his mouth. Been giving him either Calpol or Ashton and Parsons Infants Powder which both seem to help. He has woken up in the night but thankfully has not been keeping us up too long. Daddy is still out of the house for 12 hours a day and really needs his rest!! He is hoping to keep going til Christmas and to be able to pay off some more off the mortgage, which will obviously make things better in the new year when my money runs out!

Jamie’s tooth arrived a little too late as Daddy and Mummy had only just been to the dentist. We were able to register him with the practice though so that was good. At least mummy does not have to pay for her dentist at the mo. And she has had her flu jab this week so hopefully won’t get ill over Christmas like she usually does!

Last Monday the Baby Signing group had a photographer in for the day, but I wasn’t that impressed with the photos of me, Nanna and Jamie so I have booked us all in for a professional portrait on the 20th December. Should be attempting to loose a bit of weight but really can’t be bothered. I have at least moved the stepper from the garage into the house, but I will probably only end up tripping over it!! I should have gone out for a meal last Monday with some of the (younger, skinnier, no babies) girls I used to work with, but after a (unsuccessful) shopping trip the week before; spent looking at myself in the most unflattering changing room mirrors, I decided it would be too upsetting!!!

But we have been visited by Lyndsey and Benjamin, Nicola and William, and Michelle and the Twins in the last week or so; not to mention both cousins and aunts and uncles so Jamie is still a popular little happy chap!

Wednesday, 25 November 2009

Baby Its Cold Outside….

Went to see the Health Visitor on the 19th November and get Jamie weighed. (I know thats nearly a week ago but we have been busy!) Jamie is now 7.78kg / 17.2lbs.
She asked about his feeding and assumed I was feeding him ‘breakfast’ which so far I have not been. At the moment we have simply been giving him his usual milk but at lunch and at tea replacing the Hungry Baby Milk with No3 and giving him half a pot of whatever. Apparently I should be giving him some breakfast as well. Jamie has at least started swallowing; only now there seems to be a lot of spitting and the mess seems to increase with each meal. Thank god for leather settees.

Mentioned about the sunburn that I thought he had caught on Tuesday – only for it to disappear Wednesday and it was suggested he might be teething. He is dribbling for England and it does feel as if something might be happening at the front of his mouth. Also, he has a bit of a cough which he probably caught from me or daddy and so it was suggested some Calpol might work.

Daddy had been worried about a lump on the back of his neck; behind his ear at his hair line but the Health Visitor could not feel anything and reassured us it wasn’t anything to be concerned about.

Next visit will be to us in late December / early January to see how we are getting on at home!!

Friday, 13 November 2009

We may have a black eye….

Daddy is gonna be fuming. Jamie was quite happy this morning, playing on his mat (actually it’s a single duvet with a terrible 80s cover on) when all of a sudden there was a terrible scream!! It seems he hit himself in the eye with one of his stacking cups. There was a little bit of blood and a lot of crying and we are currently waiting to see what develops… However, looking at a recent email from BabyExpert.com this is all normal for a baby at 7 months:

· Your baby is now interested in how things fit together. A set of nesting cups, or any toy with different parts, will hold his attention for a long time and give you lots of potential for new games. He can also look into a container - a cup or a bowl - to see what's inside. Sometimes a bit too closely!

· He's able to imitate noises or simple actions such as clapping hands - try it and see if your baby attempts to copy you. He'll also enjoy seeing you bang two toys together, and if you put them where he can get them he may pick them up and try to do the same. Or bang two things together – one being himself!

· He has realised you are separate from him and hates it when you move out of eyesight. As his separation anxiety reaches its peak, stay close to him when he meets new people to give him confidence. If he cries when you leave a room, keep talking - he'll learn to feel safe with your voice. When you have to leave, hug and kiss him before you go and tell him you'll be back. Jamie has been a bit clingy but I am trying to stop him being too upset whenever I leave the room. He seems ok with other people at the moment though…

· Your baby will choose his own comforter at this age - whether it's a cuddly toy, blanket or muslin - and hate to be parted from it. Insure against disaster by having an identical comforter in reserve in case one is lost. Jamie's comforter appears to be his own thumb which is cheaper at least!!

· He is probably interested in starting to feed himself, so give him a spoon and let him have a go with it. A two-handled cup is worth trying around now, too - don't expect your baby to master it straightaway, but keep trying because in the long-term it's better for teeth for him to be drinking non-milk drinks from a cup than from a bottle. Still trying to get him to swallow the food we feed him, but he gets better everyday!

http://www.babyexpert.com/Baby/What%27s-happening-at-seven-months%5E/v1

Monday, 9 November 2009

7 Months Already???

Last Wednesday Jamie was 7 months old and he is growing and developing everyday. This morning I have been sorting out his smaller clothes for his cousin Noah and I have found it quite upsetting. I want him to stay as he is now – all giggly and happy and loving his mummy……

Turning 7 months has seen changes with his eating. Finally he has been swallowing some food!! After a few days of Baby Rice (I definitely should not have bought that second box) and a few days on rusks, Michelle (with the twins) suggested I started him off on his normal milk then after a while swap it for some food – that way he would know what he was supposed to do with it. Amazingly, this seemed to work!!! And yesterday he actually seemed to like the taste of something – Organic Butternut Squash and Chicken. It was a free gift in one of the Bounty packs. I bet it is expensive……I thought as much £1.89 each pot – although at the moment they are on special offer at Sainsbury’s 3 for £4.50. (Well, it does say they only use organic free range chicken) I shall have to learn how to do it myself…..

In the last few weeks he has been to Sophie’s 1st birthday party and we have attended Baby Peep at the SureStart Centre which was good as I met up with Nicola and Estelle again. I also met someone who had been at a wedding with us the night before – she also has a 6 month old and is a friend of the groom. We went as friends of the bride!! What was also good was that some of the girls from Baby Signing were also there so I had a chat with them, and then one of them turned up while I was swimming with Karen and Sophie last Friday. It's strange how we all keep meeting up….

Daddy is still working too hard and I am still without a car, but we have now decided to keep to just one at the mo. and make use of the local taxi firm that is ‘car-seat exempt’. We are not going to be travelling long distances so I don’t mind Jamie sitting on my knee for a few miles / minutes. Michelle and Karen have both been good enough to pick me up a couple of times but I am conscious of not taking the mick. Also Nanna has said she does not mind taking me to places or even lending me her car. I hope she means this as I have booked in a number of appointments today – one of them being to the Chiropractor as my back has been severely killing me in the last week. Is it the cold weather or simply too much exertion?

One thing is for sure; we now know Jamie does not like the cold. We had a very small and intimate firework party on Saturday - mainly because we found a bag of fireworks in the garage - but Jamie refused to stay outside longer than a few minutes. He was wrapped up extra warm and we all thought he looked cute in his Tigger Hat. I just don't think Jamie agreed with us!!

Thursday, 22 October 2009

Jamie at 6 months....

Well, he has certainly started to realise where he exists in relation to others. He watches us as we move about and as soon as I am out of sight – that’s when he begins to scream!! And he found his winkie the other day…

Still ‘chatting’ first thing in the morning and there have been a few da’s and la’s and I can see why the Teletubbies are so popular with babies. Jamie will think his name is gorgeous because that is mainly what I call him – sick I know but I seem to be enjoying this baby lark. I am not sure he realises what he is called just yet, as sometimes he responds and other times he just carries on with what he was doing – currently this is mainly made up of eating, dribbling, being sick or sleeping!! He seems to be constantly hungry this week – he is having (on average) 9 bottles of 240ml a day. He is still struggling to swallow any food we give him – we started him on rusks and milk one meal a day last week - but I think some of it must be going down due to the change in his nappy contents!

Daddy has started a new job which none of us like as he is away from 6am til 6.30pm and this means not only does he see me and Jamie a lot less, but also I do not have much of a respite all day. Nanna still takes him on a Thursday afternoon but I was ill last week and still have not fully recovered. I think it was all related to the pill I started taking and then stopped taking (again) last week because of the terrible periods I have been having. I seem to have had a constant headache / migraine / sickness for over a week now!!

Daddy’s new job also means we are without transport which means our social life is beginning to suffer and I wonder about the winter when the weather might mean walking is too cold for little hands and feet - not to mention mine! A decision must be made soon. As I said to Daddy yesterday Me and Jamie need Daddy more than the money.

We have started playing a game with the building cups whereby I build up the tower and he knocks it down so he is certainly getting his eye and hand coordination sorted!! Daddy also plays with the ball rolling it back and forth and Jamie has even had a few notes from the small keyboard he was given. We still love a good sing song and I purchased a Disney greatest hits CD which – although I don’t recognise a lot of the songs – I enjoy singing along to. We still listen to the ‘Wheels on the Bus’ CD which complements the Baby Signing Class we continue to attend on a Monday. We are still reading to him and I bought another (snuggletime) touchy feely book called I Love You, Baby. Duckie (from Auntie Hannah and Uncle Michael) still seems to remain his favourite toy along with the spinning head that Nanna bought (Uncle Dean is convinced it will lead Jamie into years of fruit machine addiction!) And yes, everything does seem to end up in his mouth – especially his thumb or his hand (or at least covered in dribble) at the moment! And he has developed the Lucy scream!!

He continues to roll over (and over) but still gets scared when he finds himself on his front – although less so as time goes on. We have tried lying next to him to try to get him crawling and although he has started to lift himself up there isn’t much movement as yet (possibly a good thing!). However, he is beginning to sit up for a few moments and will stand up with help - Could he be walking before he crawls?

And yes, this is the sweetest of times. His smile could melt any heart!! And he laughs when we play – he especially likes me laughing with him and kissing him! And yes he loves a good cuddle! Not sure how ‘social’ he is as yet but he is very nosey when it comes to other babies. We could not do baby massage due to his wanting to move about to see what else was going on!! Have swapped numbers with some mums from Baby Massage but as yet because of feeling so ill we have yet to meet up again. We have however been to our first christening, our first birthday party (Emily's 1st) and we have another this Saturday.

Had Jamie weighed last week and it was 16lbs 4oz and while he gains weight mummy is pleased to report she has been loosing it!! In an attempt to transform herself into a yummy mummy, mummy has had all her hair cut off but as yet has not had chance to show it off other than to the Sainsbury delivery driver!!

Tuesday, 13 October 2009

Your Baby at 6months ???

According to Mumsnet www.mumsnet.com/ at 6 months your baby will have started mastering his body. No longer will he lie contentedly on his sheepskin rug, he'll want to sit up and keep an eye on you. Not only is he developing a few ideas of his own about what he'd like to do, but soon, he'll put them into practice.

His lovely, quite detailed babbling will make way for a serious combination of combined vowels and consonants. You may hear variations on gaa goo and ka and ma. It can be hard to disentangle baby speech and all parents really want to hear is a nice crisp mama or dada. Now is the time to stop calling his chubbykins or puffpot because he will respond to what he thinks is his name. He loves hearing voices and will turn round, swivelling his trunk to hear them. He can also begin to understand the emotional overtones of language. He will talk in varying pitch to his dolls and to himself in the mirror.

His eye and hand coordination is going full steam ahead. He will pat his image in the mirror and keep his eyes fixed on an object while he reaches for it. The clever boy (and this is someone who a few weeks ago didn't realise those hands he could see were his) will then grasp the object, cupping his chubby hand round it and securing it with his thumb. Everything goes straight into his mouth so he can explore it with his tongue and lips - so watch what objects are lying in baby range. As his hand control improves so his fingers will take over the business of exploration. He will also be able to bang things, like saucepan lids and will love doing so, particularly if he suspects you have a hangover.

He will now be able to roll from his stomach to back and from his back to stomach. He may bend his knees with his forearms on the floor in front and start to push off as though about to crawl. He may rock to and fro, wondering why he's not moving. He may surprise you and be an early crawler in which case you'd better baby proof your home sharpish, as he'll have an unnerving knack for finding the bleach. Some babies seem to have a lot of muscle tone and may stand supported by furniture for a few moments. He may also sit for a few moments, best done with cushions around him so his head doesn't fall back and make a horrible noise on the floor. He may also topple over in the middle as he reaches for things in front.

This is the sweetest of times when you can believe that your baby really really loves you. No longer does he smile indiscriminately, but he saves his best smiles for you. He will look at you lovingly, patting your breast or the bottle, or reach up to pat your face, sometimes more vigorously than is comfortable but you don't want to hurt his feelings. You can make him laugh and he will kick his legs frantically to show how pleased he is with you. Best of all he will hold his arms out to be picked up and adore being cuddled. It's like the first few weeks of a romance all over again. But your baby will also now show fear and occasional anger. He will start liking and disliking foods. He will also become more sociable and instead of blanking other babies like he used to, will now reach out to touch them.

He now realises that people and things continue to exist even though he can't see them. He also realises from playing, and making things happen repeatedly that "If I do this, then that happens." From being able to move one object from one hand to another he realises that his body has two parts that meet in the middle. These are big steps in baby psychology.

Banging things and producing repeatable noises is a good game, as are waving rattles and having mum blow raspberries on your stomach. He will also like different textures such as furry things, fur cones, and squashy things. He likes it if you kneel down beside him and try to crawl with him - maybe because it makes you look ridiculous. He likes you to tell him what games you are playing with him, as in "I am rolling the ball towards you".

He can see small objects from 15 cm or less up to 3 - 6 metres away. If he could voice a colour preference it would be for red and yellow.

He will have or will soon have some incisors - two central top and 2 central bottom ones. He will want to bite everything and dribble over everyone. It's worth starting to clean them, even just with a flannel, as soon as they appear.

Friday, 9 October 2009

Manic Mum ??

The last few days I have felt rather manic and today I wonder if it was actually related to my ever present (or so it seems) period! I was glad that Nanna took Jamie out for the afternoon yesterday; giving me some time to concentrate on myself without a little voice screaming!! I just felt I was getting nothing done. I was also upset that I didn't make the BabyPeep group with my friends from Baby Massage (as we did not have a car/time) but as it turned out neither did Nicola and William.

I recently bought a very good book which helps to put everything into perspective and I must try to remember some of the valuable advice when I get a bit 'manic'. Time Management for Manic Mums by Allison Mitchell, published by Hay House (2009), has some great points for any mum struggling to cope with the demands of a baby and a house (let alone families and husbands etc.) and I have summarised some of the more relevant ones below:-
  • Time is precious. You have a tight budget of just 24 hours.
  • Ask yourself: is this the best use of my time now?
  • Unless you know what you want to do with your time, you’ll never find time to do it.
  • Break down jobs into smaller chunks – start the journey…
  • Reframe jobs i.e. cleaning party / space for something else / exercise!!
  • Don’t put it down. Put it away.
  • Remove distractions to the job in hand.
  • Define the actions needed to step towards your goals.
  • Look to the future – what happens if you do, what happens if you don’t?
  • Focus on what you want and not on what you don’t want.
  • We become what we think about.
  • Focus only on what is valuable to you.
  • It’s about choice and focus and priorities.
  • What future is your present creating for you?
  • Savour / enjoy every moment.

Saturday, 3 October 2009

Baby Massage and the Circle of Life

Over the last 3 weeks I have been taking Jamie to Baby Massage at the local Surestart centre. I don't think he really liked it and he certainly wasn't relaxed by the massage - in fact, he was more active than usual for 10.30 in the morning and spent every week being nosey and watching all the other babies and mothers / fathers. I think we can confirm he has ticklish feet and doesn't like his face being touched too much. Also, the fact he has just learnt to roll over (and over) means he actually does not like to be still when he has an opportunity to be off. The travel cot is coming out today so that I can put him in there when I am trying to get the jobs done.

What was good about the baby massage however, was that I met up with all of the mothers who attended my ante-natal group. Nicola (mentioned in previous blog entry) had a boy called William about 4 weeks after Jamie and he is already 24lbs! The twin girls arrived safe and sound-ish. They came 8 weeks early and had to stay in hospital for quite a bit but they are both looking fit and healthy now. In fact, all of the babies we had met in the bump stage are doing well!! I have swapped details with Nicole and the twins mum and hope to see them again next week at a 'Baby Peep' session.

This makes me feel better about the changes that are going on around us. Daddy has a new job. After starting one and leaving after 3 days, he has now been at the new one for 2 weeks and things are looking promising. We have both been saving hard and I have a nice little sum tucked away for when my maternity pay stops in December. We might even be able to afford an extension next year.

What is weird is the people around us. Some friends we have been on holiday with in previous years still have yet to meet Jamie and the last time we saw them we actually had not arranged to!! They don't have children and certainly won't be having any, but its almost as though they have written us off as not being interesting / worth seeing anymore.

And yet, my mind set HAS completely changed and my life DOES now revolve around Jamie - looking after him and making sure he is getting enough stimulation from me / other babies etc. Perhaps I have not made the effort with them for the same reasons? Other friends have also slipped by the wayside as I don't have the time (or energy) to arrange / organise get togethers. I should have gone to a Book Club this week with an old school friend but, as the time came to go, I knew I wouldn't make it in time and even if I had I would have probably fallen asleep at some point as it was way past my usual bedtime!! (I did read the book though). So meeting new people with similar interests and who are going through the same experiences is a blessing. I suppose its all to do with the circle of life.......

Tuesday, 29 September 2009

Top Babies Names of 2009

According to a report in The Lincolnshire Echo this week, the most popular names in the East Midlands are Jack (again) and Emily. The top 10 list of girls names features tewo new entries this year - Amelia and Evie. In the boys list, in order of popularity; Jack, Oliver, Harry, Thomas and Alfie. Follwing Emily on the girls list is Olivia, Grace, Ruby and Amelia.

Sunday, 27 September 2009

Time for Solids?


Jamie was 25weeks old yesterday and so far he has been an angel baby. I am sure this is going to change pretty soon. I see the way he looks at things - he has started following things with his eyes - and I know in a few months he is going to be into everything!! But I wouldn't have it any other way.....

Cousin Lucy visited last weekend and she has started on solids (she is still breastfeeding and having bottled milk as well) and so we thought we might try Jamie this weekend. The jar we used came free in a Bounty pack (something with vegetables??) and when we opened it I thought to myself "I don't like the smell of that". Poor old Jamie did try, but most of it ended up on his bib (or the floor) and in the end we could see he was gagging so we let him go to bed with some nice milk. Only trouble was, he woke up for the first time in ages at 5am wanting to be fed!!

Wednesday, 23 September 2009

Book Recommendations 1 and 2

Your Baby Week by Week: The Ultimate Guide to Caring for Your New Baby
by Caroline Fertleman, Dr. Simone Cave (2007) Vermilion.

I loved their description of a baby as it reaches week 12: ‘Three months marks the unofficial rite of passage when your baby is no longer a helpless little creature. Instead of craving a recreation of his womb environment, he embraces the outside world and becomes a bouncing, gurgling flirt whose sole purpose appears to be to befriend everyone he sees.’

Can’t believe how soon we reached the last chapter – week 24 which was Saturday. It seemed to take for ages to get to my 20week scan when we were told everything was ok but Jamie getting to 20 weeks seems to have happened in a flash!!

First Aid for Babies and Children Fast (2006) Dr Vivien J Armstrong, in association with the British Red Cross www.redcross.org.uk Dorling Kindersley Ltd.

Bought myself this the other week after a talk at my baby group and it being recommended. Reading it made me panic about all the things that could go wrong and made me wonder would I be able to cope? But then I think that I don’t know of many babies / children who have had accidents as described in the book and I have every faith in the ambulance service that they would get to me and sort us out…..

I did learn that in an emergency; and especially in the cases of heat exhaustion, fainting, internal bleeding and shock, to keep your child’s legs above the level of their heart as this improves the blood flow to their brain. About the only time the legs need to be below the heart are if the child is bitten by a snake - not likely around here....

The book also gave me a list of things that I should have in my medicine cabinet in case of emergency such as sterile dressings, bandages, adhesive tape, chamomile lotion….

Reading it made me glad we live in a bungalow!!

Wednesday, 16 September 2009

Jamie is the BIG cousin

Have been to visit Noah a couple of times in hospital this week. They initially kept him in as he was not feeding well enough, then Hannah had a low blood count and had to have a transfusion and now little Noah has an infected belly button. The first day we visited Noah we had been swimming beforehand (that's twice now) and a lady in the pool with her daughter referred to Jamie as 'the baby' and could not believe he was as old as we said he was! Then, on the way to see Noah this week a woman in the lift (not a Nurse) said 'I guess about 11 weeks'. He will be 24weeks on Saturday!!
Baby clinic was last Thursday and he weighed 14lbs 3oz and his length was 65.5cm. He is certainly not a baby anymore! Although this means he is just over the 25th centile line for is weight, he is actually on the 75th line for his height. The Health Visitor was very happy with his progress.

Daddy is still not working and Jamie has been coming on so much in the last few weeks. He can roll over and back by himself but he is also beginning to grasp the concept of crawling. We are willing him to move foreward and you can see he is only a whisper away from doing it. Once again he has been such a happy baby. Even when going back to the hospital and visiting Noah he behaved himself - even Nanna said so!! The only real trouble we have had with him lately was our trip along the M5 - being stuck in traffic is no-ones idea of fun and when we got to Somerset it took ages to get him settled. We won't be going that far with him for a while (although we did pick up some lovely toys for him!). At Baby Signing (which we have done 4 weeks so far) he has become more involved and this last week only fell asleep at the end!!

Saturday, 12 September 2009

Blog Baby 14


Noah Luke born 11.28am on the 9th September (09/09/09) weighing 6lb 8oz by emergency ceasarean to Hannah and Michael.
Second grandson for Jenny. First for John.
Cousin to Jamie, Nephew to Jo and Dale and Rebecca and Jimmy.
All doing well and hoping to be released today!

Saturday, 29 August 2009

Sink or Swim !!??

Yesterday I took Jamie for his first swim. I was so worried about it and was actually tossing and turning and dreaming about it in the night. I am not sure why I was so nervous - I kept having a vision of me slipping on the tiles while carrying Jamie - but I think in the end it was just the fear of the unknown and the 'first time'. No need for all the worry though (as usual) as he loved it - and so did I. I had bought a massive ring from Mothercare for him and so was able to drag Jamie up and down the pool - so it was exercise for me as well!! (I also bought a pair of trunks in every size in the Coop sale!) The pool that we went to (Free 5 day pass) had what is known as a 'shoreline' which meant we could sit at the shoreline and let the 'waves' come up to us. I think because Jamie has already had a number of baths with both mummy and daddy he was quite relaxed with regard to the water - even when he got splashed he didn't cry - he just looked a bit annoyed!! I was very glad that Karen and Sophie came with us as they are old hands at this (and it also meant I could go to the loo and leave Jamie with them!). The worst bit was after I took him out of the pool and was trying to get him dry. He was obviously cold and hungry, but as soon as we got in the changing room and he was changed, warm and being fed he was back to his usual self!! We shall be swimming again very soon.....

Sunday, 23 August 2009

More sleep but less things getting done...

Jamie was 5 months old (20weeks) yesterday and has had a few days now of sleeping from about 8pm until 7am with the occasional snore or jiffle in-between!! I find however, that because we are also getting all this sleep less is being done. I used to use the time in the middle of the night while the kettle was boiling, to fold and sort the washing, load the washing machine and have a general tidy around. This is no longer happening and the house looks like a bomb has dropped!!

Looking for other excuses for the mess I find that Daddy has got himself a new job and we have had to sort a lot of things at short notice i.e. a new car, car insurance etc. He had his leaving do on the Friday, went for the job interview on the Monday, was offered and accepted the job on Tuesday and then starts work tomorrow - 5 days later. The relief in the house is totally palatable - hence the laid back approach with the housework!!

Thursday, 20 August 2009

Baby Led Weaning ???

Went to a Weaning talk last week, led by my local health centre and Health Visitors / Nursery Nurses. It consisted mainly of watching a DVD from the La Leche League about Baby Led Weaning. As the La Leche League are advocates of Breastfeeding the DVD concentrated on this only and did not mention bottle fed babies at all.

Baby-led weaning (often abbreviated to BLW) means forgetting baby purées and weaning spoons and simply letting your baby feed himself. Many parents unconsciously choose baby-led weaning, particularly with second or subsequent children. Babies love to copy their older siblings and try to grab food from their plates and are often much happier if they are allowed to feed themselves. www.babycentre.co.uk/baby/startingsolids/babyledweaning/

After the DVD they asked us to discuss the issues raised, but I am afraid I came away more confused than before I went. What was good though was the Bounty Pack we were given with some free samples in as well as a couple of leaflets that were really helpful with regards to weaning!

Jamie himself has now had 3 nights of 10-12 hours sleep which is wonderful. He has begun to dribble a lot more and suck his thumb and we have started giving him Hungrier Baby at bedtime.

Gurgles latest email (www.gurgle.co.uk/stages/Baby/18_Week_Old/default.aspx) asks: Are you noticing your baby putting everything in her mouth? Babies at this stage are practising for when they teething and some babies are even born with a few teeth. If your baby is dribbling excessively, has red cheeks or is irritable, it may be a first tooth coming through. To stop your baby putting the wrong things into her mouth try to baby-proof your house by removing small items that your baby may choke on.

Yesterday was a bit stressful however as he had his last of his 3 sets of injections. All 3 of us shed tears at one or more times during the day. Jamie was not a happy bunny but he seems back to his normal happy self this morning. We keep pinching ourselves as so far Jamie has been quite a dream baby. The sleepless nights seem a long way off now and we are left with a very smiley, giggly baby who chortles away to himself and anyone else who will listen - usually at about 3am.

I can't believe its about a year since I got pregnant!!!

Tuesday, 11 August 2009

And they all rolled over…..

Had a bit of a panic last night as I got home from a night out (no booze, just a workshop at a local writing group) to find Jamie asleep on his side. Over the last few nights he has been waking us up by rolling onto his front and sucking the covers. What nutritional value his Winnie the Pooh mattress cover is I really can’t say, but so far we have been able to feed him and he has gone back to sleep. But to find him actually sleeping on his side was a bit of a worry. No one had told me whether or not it was safe and all the information about cot death just mentions making sure your baby sleeps on their back.

So, at 11pm last night I was searching on the Internet for something to calm me down. (us new mums – always worrying about something!!) Recent research has shown that there is a connection between the sleeping positions of babies and cot death. The risk of cot death is greatly reduced if the baby sleeps on their back. To let your baby sleep on its side is safer than letting it sleep on its stomach, but the most recent studies show that the position is not as safe for your baby as sleeping on its back.

Nobody quite knows why it is safer for your baby to sleep on its back rather than its tummy. There are several theories. One theory is that a baby sleeping on its stomach may be lying with its face so close to the sheets that it keeps breathing the same air and does not get enough oxygen. Another possibility is that the baby can suffocate when sleeping on their stomach on a mattress that is too soft and yielding. There have been recorded cases of this happening to babies in water beds. So babies should never sleep on a water bed. A third theory is that it is dangerous for a baby to lie with its face against the mattress, which may contain microbes that can interfere with the baby's breathing. Nobody has yet solved the mystery of cot death. Today, we only know that the cases of cot death have gone down since doctors recommended that babies sleep on their back.

When the baby has grown old enough to begin turning over by itself in the bed, just tuck it in on its back, but don't worry if they turn over later. There is no need to turn your baby back over during the night.
www.netdoctor.co.uk/health_advice/facts/babysleep.htm

A few of the forums mentioned breastfeeding mothers whose babies often fall asleep after they have fed them lying on their side. One even said that at one point babies were "meant" to sleep on their side then it changed again

Sent a text to Dales sister-in-law and apparently cousin Lucy sleeps on her side. She also ends up with her feet facing the other end of the bed. Jamie has certainly got a lot more boisterous – not just at night but also in the day – and he kicks and throws his arms about all the time. We are still trying to include ‘tummy time’ every day but he seems to like it less than before. You can almost hear the frustration in his voice as he tries to lift himself up. He is not quite reaching for things but he can certainly grab something when he feels like it – usually mine or dad’s hair - and he has got a lethal pinch!

Saturday, 1 August 2009

Time flies by....

.....when you are a driver on a train. Or when you are a new mum. Another week has flown by. We did make it to the last baby group on Friday (Jamie is now 12lb 11) and I have organised to go to a few more groups in the next few weeks. Jamie and I spent a couple of evenings in his nursery this week. I sat on the sofa bed that is currently in there and he was in his gym. We listened to a nursery rhyme CD that Nanna had got him. Unfortunately it didn't play that well so I have bought him a couple of new CDs this week and we are having a great time singing along......I think daddy will just have to get used to them!! I really like the Ride a Cock Horse book and CD set by Sarah Williams and Ian Beck.

Fat Club was a bit disappointing this week as I stayed the same. After that I went and made things worse by having a full 3 courses at ASK when I went with 3 other friends for a girly chat on Thursday. I felt a bit scruffy as I have only got a couple of tops that fit and I don't want to buy any more than I have to - especially if I am going to loose the baby weight. I have a full wardrobe of clothes to wear once the weight goes.... They were all mothers and so understood the dilemma. We even agreed to start 'running' and we have booked a night in in a few weeks. One thing for certain is that I must find time to add some exercise to my schedule. This week. I promise!! The only excuse I have is my back and neck which have been seriously playing up this week. I have been given some 'exercises' by the Chiropractor which I keep forgetting to do, and I have been glad I have a wheaty bag which I keep warming up in the microwave!!

I find myself this week being a bit OCD around the house - constantly checking to make sure the rooms are tidy and nothing needs doing. This is not because I have nothing to do. On the contrary I have loads (including the exercise) but I seem to be acting out some form of 'control' over my surroundings. I have had it before but this week I got quite worried about it. I know I need to relax more. Thinking about it now it is probably related to Daddies decision to accept voluntary redundancy and the fact his last day at work will be the 14th August with no job to go to as yet. I know that we will be able to exist for a year or so without his job as he don't have too many outgoings, and I am sure he won't be long before he is back working, but that is probably what is nagging at the back of my mind....

So, this week:
  • Exercise - Walk more / Video / Stepper / Swim......
  • Don't forget Back and Neck exercises.
  • Relax / Think Positive.
  • Quiet Time with Jamie and Nursery Rhymes CD
  • Contact / Visit the SureStart Centre re: Baby Massage / Current Programme.

Sunday, 26 July 2009

16weeks / 4months

Can't believe that Jamie was 4 months old yesterday - where has all the time gone?

As for his development, we were warned that as he was 5weeks early he may remain 5weeks behind for a while. However, this does not seem to have been the case. He is certainly following the 50th centile line for his weight and the 75th for his length. When he was weighed on the 16th July (when he had his 2nd lot of jabs) he was 12lb 5. This week he rolled over for the first time unaided and I have caught his lying on his side a few times. Also, he has begun to gurgle quite happily first thing in a morning and then about tea time, and it even seems as if he is trying to form words himself; especially when he is sat on mine or Daddy's knee and watches us speaking. He seems to especially enjoy the oooh sound and the corresponding lip movements. I have read that now is the time to provide a running commentary to what you are doing. Your baby may begin to be able to repeat sounds he hears you make, but they will probably sound more like ahh, boo, caa than anything that resembles a word. When he makes a sound like ‘ahh-coo’ repeat it back to him so he can hear what it sounds like. We started reading to Jamie quite early on but now Jamie seems to be getting more involved - actually looking at the corresponding pictures in the books.

I was disappointed this week as I have been waiting to attend a Baby Massage course and I finally get a place for a two week course starting this Wednesday, only to be told that due to the Swine Flu 'epidemic' and the surgery being used as a pick up point they have decided to cancel the group. I am also booked in on a 'Weaning' course in a few weeks but have not heard whether or not that will be going ahead....

Now that Jamie has started to become more or a 'character' - becoming vocal, interacting and so much more interested in his surroundings, I really want to get him to engage with more children. I also feel that I need to meet more mums. As I said I have attended a few of the Friday morning sessions but unfortunately this week will be the last one. I have therefore asked the local NCT group for details of the groups they run and I am going to try to attend one or two in the next couple of weeks - although I think some of them might be breaking up for the summer hols!! I must also make an effort to visit my other friends with children of a similar age.

Wednesday, 22 July 2009

Cyst Update

For those of you that have just joined us, when I went for my 12week scan (August 2007) and we were told the baby had died, it was discovered that I had an ovarian cyst. Following a lot of trauma and general uselessness from the hospital - see Blog entries 14th May 2008 (http://grumpymumtobe.blogspot.com/2008/05/operation-update.html) for details of my operation, and 18th June 2008 (http://grumpymumtobe.blogspot.com/2008/06/3-weeks-since-my-last-post.html) for a copy of my letter of complaint - I returned to the hospital yesterday to discuss the current size of the cyst.

Once again I did not get to see the Consultant and was greeted with; 'Are you still trying for a baby?' Did she not read the notes? 'I seem to have missed that'...... She also could find no details of the scan I had on the 9th July and had to send the nurse ut to try and find details!! When it turned up I was told there was once again 'no change'. This time she left the room to discuss my details with the Consultant (would it not have been easier for me to have just seen him?) who felt we should leave it for the time being but if I suffered any abdominal pain to get it checked as soon as possible!

I also asked about whether taking the mini-pill would have any effect on the cyst. She replied that they were known to reduce the incidence of cysts so not to worry. However, that is not what I have found on the Internet. Under 'What are the Side Effects of the mini-pill?' it says; there's a small risk of cysts in the ovaries – indeed, it’s best not to use the POP if you’ve already had an ovarian cyst www.netdoctor.co.uk/teenagehealth/mini-pills.htm Who do you believe?

Part of me is still tempted to continue with the original complaint but then I think what good would it really do?

Sunday, 19 July 2009

Feeling better....

....about my weight this week as, although I am still (at least) 2 stone overweight I have been able to fit into some trousers I have not worn since before I became pregnant. And then at fat club I reached my first ‘Silver’ 7 – having lost 7lbs in 7 weeks!! My aim is to have lost another 7lbs by the end of August when I have been invited to a Classic 80’s Rock Night where I will (hopefully) be able to wear my skinny jeans.

I did get quite upset a few weeks ago when I went to the Doctors to discuss the Big C – Contraception – as she had put me on the mini-pill and I had the longest period ever of 23 days until I stopped taking it. I asked whether I could go back onto the combination pill but she said because I was too old and too fat she did not want to risk a stroke. (ok, so she didn't quite say it like that!) The swabs they took all came back negative so it was nothing untoward. I know there are other options but until we have fully ruled out not having a second child I don't want an implant just yet. We have agreed to give it a year before making such a big decision as ‘no more children’……

Back to my age. Went to baby group this week for the second time in two weeks. I had missed out a few because I felt they weren't really of use yet (Dentist, Weaning) and because it has been hard getting up for 10am on a Friday after 3 hourly feeds. Anyway, I am really glad I didn't totally give up on the group as I really enjoyed the last couple of groups and have been chatting to other (really nice) mums. One of the mums told me this week she is 46. She thought she was going through the menopause but instead found she was pregnant. Her daughter is fit and healthy and growing well!!!

Tuesday, 7 July 2009

Two years later....

It has been just over two years since I started this blog on the 1st July 2007. Then I was 6weeks pregnant (and feeling very rough) with a baby that I later lost; described as a 'failed abortion' at 13weeks. A few days after being told at my scan that the baby had died at about 5weeks I suffered a miscarriage. Following that I had to wait for an operation to remove an ovarian cyst which they found instead of a baby and was told not to try for a baby during this time. The operation was unsuccessful and I considered suing the hospital trust (I have not fully ruled it out). I was sent for grief counseling and resigned from my job after having so much time off sick.

Then on the 21st September 2008 the blog reported I was 7weeks pregnant. This time we paid for an early scan at 8weeks and a private Nuchal Translucency Scan with Nasal Bone Measurement and associated blood test; which tests for the probability of Downs, Edwards, Pataus and Turners Syndrome. My blog then followed the ups and downs of the pregnancy; midwives, fact finding / information gained from various sources, parent craft classes, pregnancy worries, family dynamics, weight gain, back ache, Christmas with a bump, scans, snoring, nest building, a 40th birthday without alcohol and then finally my waters breaking 6 weeks before my due date!!

I am now the proud mother of a 13week old baby boy - Jamie - born 4th April 2009 - 5weeks early - and am attempting to document the highs and lows of motherhood.

Today I joined www.mumbloggersclub.co.uk/

Thursday, 2 July 2009

No Rush To Loose Extra Pounds

This week I was very disappointed at Fat Club because I didn't loose (or gain) any weight but stayed the same!! In 6 weeks I have lost 5lbs - not good enough!! I have organised a school reunion - on behalf of someone else - on the 17th July and I really don't feel like I will be going. And then there is the Classic 80's Rock Night on the 30th August for which I should like to be able to squeeze into my tight jeans!!

Got sent an email today from The Food Doctor http://www.thefooddoctor.com/ discussing celebrities and the desire to be thin straight away after giving birth. This is what it said:

Trying to copy celebrities who are back in skinny jeans weeks after giving birth is unrealistic and dangerous, new mothers are being warned. It can take women six months or even a year, not weeks, to shed the weight they put on in pregnancy, say experts. Crash diets and intensive exercise programmes are not only likely to fail but can harm mother and baby. The advice comes from Germany's Institute for Quality and Efficiency in Health Care.

The Institute's director Professor Peter Sawicki said: "Often, the extra effort women have to make to look after a new baby and breastfeed after giving birth means the kilos just melt away without effort. "But for about half of all women, the weight will not go away as quickly." Those new mothers still in their maternity wear weeks later should not rush to do punishing exercise classes, says the guidance, but should instead follow a sensible diet and build up slowly to more strenuous exercise. "Even though many magazines have 'get your bikini body back quickly' diets on their covers, promising women they can achieve their ideal weight in time for summer, it is not getting quick results that counts the most. This is particularly true after pregnancy. It is normal for it to take three to six months for women to lose the weight they gained in pregnancy," it says.

Louise Silverton of the Royal College of Midwives agreed with the advice. "We would discourage a rush to lose weight after pregnancy, it places undue strain on the mother's body when she needs her strength to look after her baby, and the evidence suggests that slow and sustained weight loss, if needed, is the sensible option.

The Food Doctor says; As with any crash diet, the effects are short term, and likely to do you more harm than good. This is even more likely the case when you have just had a baby, and these latest suggestions really highlight the importance of sensible and steady weight loss after a pregnancy. If you are breastfeeding, then you need around an extra 500 – 750 calories a day. What is important to ensure is that you eat the right sort of foods to keep your energy up, whilst also replenishing all those lost nutrients, getting you back to your old self. Some good choices are porridge oats, brown rice, oatcakes, wholemeal bread, bulgur wheat and pearl barley. And don’t forget as many fruit and vegetables as possible, to really pack in those vitamins and minerals. As with any kind of weight loss, if it is done sensibly, and over a reasonable period of time, then it is far more likely to stay off, and avoids the slippery slope into yoyo dieting. It is also a far healthier way to do it, and helps establish good eating habits.

Saturday, 27 June 2009

Wisdoms of modern fathers

In Saturdays Times (20/06/09) there was a section entitled Wisdoms of modern fathers. Here are my favourites:

No one told me that I would be too knackered by the evening to want to go out, even if we do get a babysitter. No one told me that I'd never be able to look at a cardboard box again without wondering what I could turn it into with a breadknife and sticky tape. No one told me that my idea of an outfit for a 4 yr old girl would be met with snorts of derision from mother. No one told me that I would have to wrestle with Dr Seuss at 7 in the morning. Everyone told me becoming a father would change my life. But nothing could have prepared me for it.
Tim Rushby-Smith: Times Writer and father of Rosakie (4).

The Just You Waiters always tell you about the sleepless nights, and how difficult it is to get out the front door, and how you are aways missing one shoe when it is time to go, and how your life is no longer your own and well, it's all true. But what they can't tell you is that when the children are yours you will find that somehow it's all worth it. That's not something you can have explained to you. You have to experience it for yourself.
Daniel Finkelstein: Times writer and father of Sam (9). Aron (7) and Isaac (2)

Being a father means having to know everything. My dad knew everything and now, according to my son, so do I. Here are 10 questions I have had to answer in the past 18 months:
Daddy, can you unmake a cake?
Do some people have fat legs?
What's the messiest place on Earth?
Can I throw my sock at the television?
Can a goldfish breathe in a cup?
What are lemons made of?
Do caterpillars have bodies?
Who invented Shampoo?
When's next week?
How do threadworms get oxygen from your bum?
Are people edible?
Did the Elephant Man ever get any post?
Mackenzie Crook: Actor and father of Jude (6) and Scout (18mnths)

Fatherhood teaches you very quickly that, first, you are out of date and old fashioned and, second, that this applies particularly to your clothes. Nobody told me about what an effective cure it would be for selfishness. Suddenly, your own needs are nothing - the children's needs are everything. Nothing else teaches you that lesson so quickly, and effectively.
Alexander McCall Smith: Novelist and father of 2 daughters aged 22 and 25.

Sunday, 21 June 2009

Happy Fathers Day...

...although Daddy has yet to make it out of bed as he was out on the town last night. Jamie has bought Daddy a number of presents including a How to Sing Book, the DVD of Billy Liar and a fantastic mug with lots of Jamie's photos on from www.truprint.co.uk

I went out for most of the day yesterday and left Jamie with Daddy but Nanna came and took him out in his pram for a 2 hour walk. Daddy (and I) could get used to this - although I did miss him terribly while I was away! I feel that he is now less like a baby and becoming a little person. I am sure that he is taking things in a lot more now; he is looking around at things all the time. He loves the play gym that we bought him and lies quite content and gurgling in there once I have fed him. I bought him a couple of books (at the same time as I bought the Fathers Day presents) and he loves Faces (Baby's Very First Book) (Rag Book) by John Fordham (Illustrator).

Jamie had his first set of injections this week and I was more upset about it than he was!! He came away with a plaster on the top of each leg and I came away a wet blanket. But on our way out we met my gym buddy with our god-daughter who was going for her MMR....

While we were there though we did get him weighed and he is now 4.82kilos / 10.10lbs and his length is now 57cm. (Mummy has lost 3 and a half pounds in 4 weeks). We again discussed his sleeping and feeding patterns and the Health Visitor suggested increasing his feeds to 150ml (from 120ml at mo). However, she wasn't too sure about giving him water in the night as the Dr suggested...

His next set of injections are in 4 weeks so we shall see how much he weighs then, the little milk monster....

Thursday, 18 June 2009

Baby Whisperer

Last week Jamie moved out of his moses basket and into his cot - although he still remains in our room. He is still waking at approximately 3 hourly intervals through the night and I have had a number of sleepless nights and - as a consequence - tearful days! This has not been helped by the fact that I have had a 2 and a half week (so far) period for which I have been taking antibiotics in case of infection. I have had a couple of internals and a number of swabs taken. I know my urine is OK as the results came back normal but apparently the other results take over a week. What has upset me though is that I have just read that women with Ovarian cysts are advised NOT to take the mini-pill!! Have therefore booked another appointment with my Dr just before the packet runs out next week - so hopefully my results will be back by then.

I finally got around to reading one of my 40th birthday presents this week (thanks to Karen, John and Sophie) and then sent Daddy off to work with it. Top Tips from the Baby Whisperer by Tracy Hogg. Coupled with advice from my Dr we are now following (or attempting to) the EASY routine and replacing one of his night feeds (4am) with water only. The EASY routine stands for Eating (25-40mins)/ Activity (45mins) / Sleep / You in that order! We have also been told by a few people that we are spoiling him by letting him fall asleep on us ("its no wonder he won't sleep in his cot") so we are trying hard not to let this happen - although it is hard not to when he is so cute!!

Did I mention Jamie has also had a number of incidents of projectile vomiting - one all over his Nanna? Very messy indeed!!

Wednesday, 10 June 2009

Blog Babies 12 and 13

Brothers bridesmaid Katy and husband Gray had a baby boy on the 23rd May – William Graham 6lb 12oz

Friend and Hairdresser Karley and partner Ady had a little girl on the 3rd June (due date 26th May) weighing 7lb 15oz. They have called her Tilly Jayne.

Congratulations to both families!! xxx

Sunday, 7 June 2009

The Illusion of Fear

Thanks to Ingrid Bacci at: www.ingridbacci.com for her latest email called; 'Your Best Life Strategy' which says:

You have the very best chance of living at the top of your game, and with the greatest degree of happiness, if you make your primary goal each moment of each day learning how to let go of fear. Fear is everywhere in our lives where we do not experience profound peace and its corollary, joy. Fear is identical with feeling that anything in life - absolutely anything - controls you. Fear is the experiential expression of disempowerment.

Fear is not always conscious, since it can hide itself under many covers. We are conscious of fear when we feel nervous or anxious. But fear also masks itself in other feelings and attitudes. For example, fear is the source of anger. We have no cause to be angry if we aren't afraid. We don't need to be competitive if we aren't afraid. Fear underlies the need to please, to be approved of, to be liked, and to be top dog. We don't need these if we are not afraid. Fear creates jealousy, resentment, disappointment and depression. We don't feel these feelings unless on some level we feel afraid of losing something.

All negative feelings come down to fear. And fear comes down to feeling that something outside you controls your fate, whether that is a person, a situation, an institution, or belief in a particular code of right and wrong. All fear creates fearful consequences. We drive ourselves sick with fear, drive others away through our fear or seek to control them, and live in judgment and fear of judgment. All this breeds a dark world - the world we live in.

The only solution to fear is letting go of the addiction to feeling disempowered, to feeling that we are somehow lacking. Whenever we feel fear - or anger, or need for approval, or disappointment, and so on - we try to control something or someone else or even ourselves, in order to feel better. But we can never win at this game. The more we try to control, the more we fear losing control. In the long run, fear breeds personal and social disaster.

To heal from fear is to refuse to listen to the reasons it gives us for feeling that way (Your ego will always find reasons for you to feel bad.) and to work instead on releasing ourselves from the feeling of fear in this moment. Let's say I notice that I am anxious about meeting a deadline. I work on releasing myself from my fear by breathing, relaxing tight muscles, or visualizing something peaceful. This shifts me slightly out of the fear. Then I approach my tasks from that slightly calmer place. And I repeat this process again and again, working on letting go of fear while I live my life. Over time, the fear simply dissolves, and I recognize it was really an illusion.

Let's say I am in an argument with someone. I notice the tension in my body, a tension that is all about fear, and I focus on observing and letting go of that tension as much as I can. Then I speak to the other person from a place of greater calm and less fear. This makes my life more pleasant as well as my communications more effective.

Moment by moment practice of releasing the internal experience of fear and cultivating the internal experience of peace is a life journey that can bring extraordinary results, if only you practice. You too can become truly peaceful in this chaotic world. You too can own an ocean of peace and joy in the midst of a life full of uncertainty. You too can let go of the illusion of fear.

Thursday, 4 June 2009

Military Operations...

Following on from my first night out without Jamie at the weekend (which went very well if only a little hungover), yesterday I met a group of 4 friends I used to work with for tea in a local pub - only 1 of them having a baby and all of them are younger than me. Jamie got even more presents; including a John Rocha little set!! Before I went I was very nervous but once I got there and Jamie was settled I really enjoyed it. It was nice not to talk just about babies but at times I did feel a bit 'out of it'. At least I am getting better with regards to being prepared. I have my free Boots changing bag which is now kept filled with all the necessities we might ever need when taking Jamie anywhere!! It still feels like a military operation every time we leave the house (one friend mentioned having to take a suitcase as well as a baby everywhere) but I think I am getting better and calmer at it! My OCD seems to have finally come in handy!! As for Daddy, following a visit from uncle and auntie and cousin Lucy last weekend he invested in a sling to carry Jamie around. It means Jamie is closer to his Daddy and therefore sleeps happily, and at the same time daddy can carry on as normal - well nearly. He can at least play the piano while having Jamie close!!

Saturday, 30 May 2009

Finally took down all the cards....

Jamie is 8 weeks old today and I have only just taken down all his cards. This is mainly because they have still been arriving - the last one coming last Saturday. Can you believe he got a grand total of 73 cards - that's more than I got for my 40th!!

Tonight we are going out for the first time on our own without Jamie and Nanna is babysitting. I have had my 6 week check with the Dr and I seem to be back on track. She mentioned my stitches may make things feel a little 'tighter'. Not sure about me and daddy, but I hope Jamie behaves himself as he has been all up and down with regards to his feeding and sleeping over the last few days - consequently I may need more make up than usual when we go out tonight!

Friday, 22 May 2009

Returning to Pre-Pregnancy Size....

This week I joined weight watchers in order to try and shift the 2+ stone I am still carrying about. My pre-pregnancy weight was 10 stone 11, and I currently weight 12 stone 8 and a half!! The last time I weighed myself during the pregnancy - which I think was a few weeks before Jamie arrived - I weighed 13 and a half!! I have said I should like to loose 2 stone by Christmas which is 32 weeks (til Christmas Day!) so that is feasible!! I have done all my measurements, started to reduce portion sizes and calorie content, and just need to find some time (and energy) to fit some exercise into my routine!!

I am no longer expressing breast milk so Jamie will not suffer as a result of my diet. A lot of people mentioned while I was pregnant the fact that breastfeeding helps you to loose weight. I am not sure whether or not this is actually true or another 'fact' that they tell you in order to try to persuade you. I do feel that I have a certain amount of guilt attached to myself at the mo. because I am not breastfeeding!! Jamie seems happy enough and is certainly gaining weight at a rapid rate so I don't think it has done him any harm!! He had his 6 week check yesterday and all is perfect!! He is still waking quite a bit during the night and the Health Visitor suggested that he might not be hungry but might actually just have wind. She suggested giving him gripe water before each feed to help with his wind!

Friday, 15 May 2009

Remember....

You'll never have enough money to buy all the stuff you don't really need, and you'll never have enough time to do all the things you really don't want to do. www.timetowrite.blogs.com/

Tuesday, 12 May 2009

Sylvia Plath: On seeing her newborn baby

What did my fingers do before they held him?
What did my heart do, with its love?
I have never seen a thing so clear.
His lids are like the lilac flower
And soft as a moth, his breath.
I shall not let go.
There is no guile or warp in him.
May he keep so.

Sylvia Plath
(Three Women: A Poem for Three Voices – 1962)

Thursday, 7 May 2009

Due Date

Today is Jamie’s official due date. But of course he will be 5 weeks old on Saturday. He now weighs 7lb 5oz (weighed Tuesday) and is gaining at a steady rate!! (Normal rate = 4-7oz a week). He has outgrown most of the ‘Tiny Baby’ clothes that he has been wearing since hospital and has moved up to ‘Newborn’ – but not for much longer I think! Visitors in the last few days have all commented on how much he has grown – chiefly because he has recently become a total milk monster!! I am still having the few odd tears but most of the time I do feel calmer. Daddy thinks the tears are because I have not really been out much (although I have had a number of visitors) and so today I have been trying to organise a few trips out for myself – with and without Jamie. Nanna has agreed to baby-sit for us in a few weeks, and today she fed and changed her grandson for the first time! One friend who visited this week told of a new mother who had a conversation with her about buying sausages – I don’t want this to happen to me. I can already feel my brain turning into a slow mush and I have had trouble remembering words; so I know I need to get out and interact with people other than my son. Daddy says this will also make me appreciate him more when I return. I have also given up on the dream of being a total earth mother and resigned myself to the fact that Jamie is not going to breast feed and he actually seems to like formulae milk. I have consequently stopped expressing milk, but can feel proud that Jamie had the ‘good stuff’ for the first 5 weeks of his life. This has already helped with my sanity as it gives me a few more hours in the day. Information regarding my breasts returning to ‘normal’ on the internet range from anywhere between 3 days to 3 weeks. I can’t say he is in any form of routine yet but I do feel it has (so far) been easier than expected….and I am enjoying motherhood so far – honest!!

Tuesday, 5 May 2009

Home Duties

(Home Duties is what I have put on Jamie’s birth certificate as my occupation!)

I found the first few days on my own were quite stressful. It didn’t help that the Health Visitor visited the first day that Daddy returned to work and found me in tears. However, since then I have had a number of visitors which has filled our days, and I even ventured out for the first time on my own with Jamie. It was May’s last day at LCC so it wasn’t a long way to go and I felt so proud of myself that I was able to put in the take out the car seat by myself. Of course everyone was cooing over Jamie and it felt good to be back in the ‘real world’ for a while!

On Friday (1st May) I went to see the Dr for the first time – primarily to discuss contraception but also to get Jamie registered at the practice. On discharge from the hospital I was given some information (Paediatric Department: Discharge Summary and Prescription) to pass onto the GP and I had a quick peak…..

Method of Onset of Labour: Spontaneous rupture of membranes
1st Stage: 6hrs 45mins
2nd Stage: 32 mins (Full Dilation)
3rd Stage: 3 mins (Delivery of Placenta)

Apgar Score of 9 given after 1 and 5 minutes.
The Apgar score occurs right after your baby's birth in the delivery room. The test was designed to quickly evaluate a newborn's physical condition after delivery and to determine any immediate need for extra medical or emergency care. Five factors are used to evaluate the baby's condition and each factor is scored on a scale of 0 to 2, with 2 being the best score:
activity and muscle tone / pulse (heart rate) / grimace response (medically known as "reflex irritability") / appearance (skin coloration) / respiration (breathing rate and effort)

Scores obtainable are between 10 and 0, with 10 being the highest possible score. A baby who scores a 7 or above on the test at 1 minute after birth is generally considered in good health. However, a lower score doesn't necessarily mean that your baby is unhealthy or abnormal. But it may mean that your baby simply needs some special immediate care, such as suctioning of the airways or oxygen to help him or her breathe, after which your baby may improve. At 5 minutes after birth, the Apgar score is recalculated, and if your baby's score hasn't improved to 7 or greater, or there are other concerns, the doctors and nurses may continue any necessary medical care and will closely monitor your baby. Some babies are born with heart or lung conditions or other problems that require extra medical care; others just take a little longer than usual to adjust to life outside the womb. Most newborns with initial Apgar scores of less than 7 will eventually do just fine. http://kidshealth.org/parent/newborn/first_days/apgar.html