.....for her hols.
Last Thursday night me and Jamie took Nanna to a local pub for tea as she was off on her hols on the Friday morning. Jamie was his usual cheerful self; shouting about, but he was generally well behaved. We came back quite early as daddy needed the car and so to bed. But not long after Jamie was asleep mummy started being sick.
And there has been someone being sick in the house ever since. Just rang the Drs for some advice on Jamie as he has been sick since Sunday. Again, he is quite happy in himself and keeps asking for 'Juice' 'Milk' 'Toast' etc. Unfortunately, 45mins after eating anything he is throwing it back up. Dr said as long as he is hydrated and still getting a wet nappy he should be ok. My only worry is tomorrow when I am due to go to work and Jamie is due at Nursery. Daddy is still not 100%, Granddad is also unwell and Nanna is in Bulgaria!!
Tuesday 28 June 2011
Sunday 19 June 2011
Other Mummys....
Once again Jamie has had the dreaded cough and this time mummy got a dose of the snots as well. So we have been a bit pathetic the last week or so. Was worried about sending Jamie to nursery last week but he was fine. Although they did organise for them all to be filmed as part of some 'Wild Beast' video - I think they sit the children in front of a blue screen and then superimpose a film behind them afterwards - but Jamie refused to sit on the chair or be filmed. I didn't really mind as it saved us some pennies, and its not as if we don't have enough photos etc. of Jamie...
This week mummy volunteered to do 4 days as work is so busy. She only actually managed to do 3 as part of her tooth fell off on Thursday so she thought she had better get to the dentist Friday. She ended up having it all re-filled but unfortunately fainted in the dentists chair which meant she felt very ill for the rest of the day and most of Saturday!
Working hard meant mummy was concerned that she needed to spend Tuesday with Jamie doing something together. She was glad therefore, when they finally got into 'Toddler Peep' at the local SureStart Centre. There was singing, playing in the sand pit, lots of running around, and getting very sticky making a Fathers Day card for Daddy for today. Although the other mums seemed to know each other and mummy felt a bit left out, it was clear Jamie was having a great time. Hopefully this week mummy will feel more part of the group.
And then yesterday we went to Tessa's 3rd birthday. This was the invitation I have previously mentioned that he got from nursery. It was all very strange turning up to a party where the children knew each other but not many of the parents did! I feel I did ok with the other parents, but it was hard to know who knew who, and which parent was with which child. We stayed for 2 and a half hours and once again it was all about the children. I could have sat and been mardy that no one spoke to me and moaned that I felt left out, but Jamie was certainly not ignored or left out. He loved all the party food and the Bouncy Castle and it was clear he had a fantastic time. I did have a nice chat to Faith's mummy however, and she did mention another party in August!
This morning, Jamie and Daddy have gone off to see Granddad and Nanna Mo as it is her birthday today; as well as being Fathers Day. Mummy is enjoying some peace and quiet but conscious of the fact she may end up working most of next week due to holidays and being short staffed!!
This week mummy volunteered to do 4 days as work is so busy. She only actually managed to do 3 as part of her tooth fell off on Thursday so she thought she had better get to the dentist Friday. She ended up having it all re-filled but unfortunately fainted in the dentists chair which meant she felt very ill for the rest of the day and most of Saturday!
Working hard meant mummy was concerned that she needed to spend Tuesday with Jamie doing something together. She was glad therefore, when they finally got into 'Toddler Peep' at the local SureStart Centre. There was singing, playing in the sand pit, lots of running around, and getting very sticky making a Fathers Day card for Daddy for today. Although the other mums seemed to know each other and mummy felt a bit left out, it was clear Jamie was having a great time. Hopefully this week mummy will feel more part of the group.
And then yesterday we went to Tessa's 3rd birthday. This was the invitation I have previously mentioned that he got from nursery. It was all very strange turning up to a party where the children knew each other but not many of the parents did! I feel I did ok with the other parents, but it was hard to know who knew who, and which parent was with which child. We stayed for 2 and a half hours and once again it was all about the children. I could have sat and been mardy that no one spoke to me and moaned that I felt left out, but Jamie was certainly not ignored or left out. He loved all the party food and the Bouncy Castle and it was clear he had a fantastic time. I did have a nice chat to Faith's mummy however, and she did mention another party in August!
This morning, Jamie and Daddy have gone off to see Granddad and Nanna Mo as it is her birthday today; as well as being Fathers Day. Mummy is enjoying some peace and quiet but conscious of the fact she may end up working most of next week due to holidays and being short staffed!!
Tuesday 7 June 2011
Potty Arrived Today
Put in a big order to Next yesterday for holiday clothes, and while I was at it thought I would get Jamie a 3 in 1 potty. Its a Lindam potty and its a step stool with a toilet seat for putting on our seat when he is ready.
When we got it out of the box, Jamie immediately said 'Wee Wee'. We thought it might be a miracle but took his trousers and nappy off and sat him on it. No. Nothing happened. He just cried. Didn't think he was ready to use the potty yet, but it was worth a try.
Glad we got it though, as Jamie does like to wash and dry his hands in the bathroom. He also likes to help with the washing up in the kitchen so now he has his own stool to stand on. And hopefully, when it comes to potty training later in the year, he will be familiar with the potty!!
When we got it out of the box, Jamie immediately said 'Wee Wee'. We thought it might be a miracle but took his trousers and nappy off and sat him on it. No. Nothing happened. He just cried. Didn't think he was ready to use the potty yet, but it was worth a try.
Glad we got it though, as Jamie does like to wash and dry his hands in the bathroom. He also likes to help with the washing up in the kitchen so now he has his own stool to stand on. And hopefully, when it comes to potty training later in the year, he will be familiar with the potty!!
Monday 6 June 2011
Regrets Of The Dying
Someone sent me this link last week www.inspirationandchai.com/Regrets-of-the-Dying.html - the website of Bronnie Ware. I think it gives us all something to think about.
For many years I worked in palliative care. My patients were those who had gone home to die. When questioned about any regrets they had or anything they would do differently, common themes surfaced again and again. Here are the most common five:
1. I wish I'd had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.
This was the most common regret of all. When people realise that their life is almost over and look back clearly on it, it is easy to see how many dreams have gone unfulfilled. Most people had not honoured even a half of their dreams and had to die knowing that it was due to choices they had made, or not made. It is very important to try and honour at least some of your dreams along the way. From the moment that you lose your health, it is too late. Health brings a freedom very few realise, until they no longer have it.
2. I wish I didn't work so hard.
This came from every male patient that I nursed. They missed their children's youth and their partner's companionship. All of the men I nursed deeply regretted spending so much of their lives on the treadmill of a work existence. By simplifying your lifestyle and making conscious choices along the way, it is possible to not need the income that you think you do. And by creating more space in your life, you become happier and more open to new opportunities, ones more suited to your new lifestyle.
3. I wish I'd had the courage to express my feelings.
Many people suppressed their feelings in order to keep peace with others. As a result, they settled for a mediocre existence and never became who they were truly capable of becoming. Many developed illnesses relating to the bitterness and resentment they carried as a result. We cannot control the reactions of others. However, although people may initially react when you change the way you are by speaking honestly, in the end it raises the relationship to a whole new and healthier level. Either that or it releases the unhealthy relationship from your life. Either way, you win.
4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.
Many had become so caught up in their own lives that they had let golden friendships slip by over the years. There were many deep regrets about not giving friendships the time and effort that they deserved. When you are faced with your approaching death, the physical details of life fall away. People do want to get their financial affairs in order, but it is not money or status that holds true importance. They want to get things in order more for the benefit of those they love. Usually though, they are too ill and weary. It is all comes down to love and relationships in the end.
5. I wish that I had let myself be happier.
This is a surprisingly common one. Many did not realise until the end that happiness is a choice. They had stayed stuck in old patterns and habits. The so-called 'comfort' of familiarity overflowed into their emotions, as well as their physical lives. Fear of change had them pretending to others, and to their selves, that they were content. When deep within, they longed to laugh properly and have silliness in their life again. When you are on your deathbed, what others think of you is a long way from your mind. How wonderful to be able to let go and smile again, long before you are dying. Life is a choice. It is YOUR life. Choose consciously, choose wisely, choose honestly. Choose happiness.
For many years I worked in palliative care. My patients were those who had gone home to die. When questioned about any regrets they had or anything they would do differently, common themes surfaced again and again. Here are the most common five:
1. I wish I'd had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.
This was the most common regret of all. When people realise that their life is almost over and look back clearly on it, it is easy to see how many dreams have gone unfulfilled. Most people had not honoured even a half of their dreams and had to die knowing that it was due to choices they had made, or not made. It is very important to try and honour at least some of your dreams along the way. From the moment that you lose your health, it is too late. Health brings a freedom very few realise, until they no longer have it.
2. I wish I didn't work so hard.
This came from every male patient that I nursed. They missed their children's youth and their partner's companionship. All of the men I nursed deeply regretted spending so much of their lives on the treadmill of a work existence. By simplifying your lifestyle and making conscious choices along the way, it is possible to not need the income that you think you do. And by creating more space in your life, you become happier and more open to new opportunities, ones more suited to your new lifestyle.
3. I wish I'd had the courage to express my feelings.
Many people suppressed their feelings in order to keep peace with others. As a result, they settled for a mediocre existence and never became who they were truly capable of becoming. Many developed illnesses relating to the bitterness and resentment they carried as a result. We cannot control the reactions of others. However, although people may initially react when you change the way you are by speaking honestly, in the end it raises the relationship to a whole new and healthier level. Either that or it releases the unhealthy relationship from your life. Either way, you win.
4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.
Many had become so caught up in their own lives that they had let golden friendships slip by over the years. There were many deep regrets about not giving friendships the time and effort that they deserved. When you are faced with your approaching death, the physical details of life fall away. People do want to get their financial affairs in order, but it is not money or status that holds true importance. They want to get things in order more for the benefit of those they love. Usually though, they are too ill and weary. It is all comes down to love and relationships in the end.
5. I wish that I had let myself be happier.
This is a surprisingly common one. Many did not realise until the end that happiness is a choice. They had stayed stuck in old patterns and habits. The so-called 'comfort' of familiarity overflowed into their emotions, as well as their physical lives. Fear of change had them pretending to others, and to their selves, that they were content. When deep within, they longed to laugh properly and have silliness in their life again. When you are on your deathbed, what others think of you is a long way from your mind. How wonderful to be able to let go and smile again, long before you are dying. Life is a choice. It is YOUR life. Choose consciously, choose wisely, choose honestly. Choose happiness.
Sunday 5 June 2011
Busy, Busy, Busy
I felt a bit guilty last week for having a day off work and still sending Jamie to Nursery, but the jobs I got completed and the sense of achievement at the end of the day made me realise it was a good thing for all of us and I should not feel bad about having time to myself.
This week however, mummy has not had as much time for herself, but I don't feel quite as hassled as I know I was on top of things only last week!! And it means I have been able to throw myself into days out with Jamie without worrying that I have not done something I should have done!
Last weekend I did have a day to myself when I went to a couple of writing workshops as part of the Lincoln Hay Day. Due to Jamie having an early nap this morning I have been able to write them up for my other blog http://theonlyconsequence.blogspot.com/ and send a few 'networking' emails to people I met on the day. Monday this week was a very wet Bank Holiday and we had to abandon any idea of a BarBQ but cousin Noah still came for a play. The rest of the week has been half term for the older children which meant on Tuesday we had an afternoon out at the park with Emily, Ella, Lauren, Jo and Jodie. Not forgetting little Elliott. Jamie loves the park, but mummy is still having little panic attacks...
And then yesterday Nicola and Will had a last minute play date here in the bright sunshine. We only organised it Friday evening, but I had enough time to go to ASDA and purchase a sand pit for the boys to play in. We even had time to pay a quick visit to Trudy to discuss her hen night next weekend, and a quick visit to see Kerry and the girls and get wet in their pool, before having a quick nap and then getting ready for more fun!! Nicola brought an inflatable pool and with the sunshine it could not have been a more perfect day. Perhaps if they had not thrown so much sand at us.....
And this afternoon we are off to the Village Green / Park for an afternoon with the City of Lincoln band who are performing in the new performance area.
This week however, mummy has not had as much time for herself, but I don't feel quite as hassled as I know I was on top of things only last week!! And it means I have been able to throw myself into days out with Jamie without worrying that I have not done something I should have done!
Last weekend I did have a day to myself when I went to a couple of writing workshops as part of the Lincoln Hay Day. Due to Jamie having an early nap this morning I have been able to write them up for my other blog http://theonlyconsequence.blogspot.com/ and send a few 'networking' emails to people I met on the day. Monday this week was a very wet Bank Holiday and we had to abandon any idea of a BarBQ but cousin Noah still came for a play. The rest of the week has been half term for the older children which meant on Tuesday we had an afternoon out at the park with Emily, Ella, Lauren, Jo and Jodie. Not forgetting little Elliott. Jamie loves the park, but mummy is still having little panic attacks...
And then yesterday Nicola and Will had a last minute play date here in the bright sunshine. We only organised it Friday evening, but I had enough time to go to ASDA and purchase a sand pit for the boys to play in. We even had time to pay a quick visit to Trudy to discuss her hen night next weekend, and a quick visit to see Kerry and the girls and get wet in their pool, before having a quick nap and then getting ready for more fun!! Nicola brought an inflatable pool and with the sunshine it could not have been a more perfect day. Perhaps if they had not thrown so much sand at us.....
And this afternoon we are off to the Village Green / Park for an afternoon with the City of Lincoln band who are performing in the new performance area.
Wednesday 1 June 2011
Best Training....
'The best training you can have for toddlers is having spent a number of years hanging out with drunks. Helping them walk, cleaning up their vomit, putting ice on their head when they fall and smack it on the table; the uncontrollable rage and tears and joy all in, like, ten seconds.'
Johnny Depp.
Quoted in the Sainbury's Little Ones baby & toddler magazine Summer 2011 (www.sainsburys.co.uk/littleones )
Johnny Depp.
Quoted in the Sainbury's Little Ones baby & toddler magazine Summer 2011 (www.sainsburys.co.uk/littleones )
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