Friday, 4 November 2011

The foundation for happy secure children

Curly K recently lent me a very good book entitled; Toddler Taming: A Parent’s Guide to the First Four Years by Dr Christopher Green published by Vermilion, London. The edition she lent me was from the 1990s but I know it is regularly updated.

The Foundation
Love Being wanted and welcome. Love may be a vague term but it is a very important word.
Consistency Children need to know where they stand and that what stands today will still be standing tomorrow.
Tackle Tension Tension is probably the most common destructive influence in today’s child rearing. There is no point in bringing up your child by the book, if home feels like a war zone. Friction in adult relationships can never be hidden from children. The most considerate thing we as parents can do for our children is to be kinder to one another.
Good Example Children cannot behave better than those whose example they follow.
Reasonable Expectations Parents need to know what is normal and what to expect. Unrealistic expectations cause non-problems which undermine parents unnecessarily.
Fun and Enjoyment Children should be brought up as apprentices to fun loving parents who enjoy having them around. Some parents take child-rearing so seriously that it becomes an interesting scientific experiment. You cannot fall in love with some laboratory animal.
Confidence Here is the key to effective parenting. Confident parents are positive and positive parents become very powerful people.

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